I was 26, single and had been dating on and off from online websites for a little over 5 years. I have had a profile on 3 online dating sites and 1 dating app in total. Swipe right please! 😉 Speaking of Tinder there’s a really cool story that came out of that app – Read it HERE. Anyways, I know 5 years seems like a lot for a girl in her 20s but I wasn’t much of a traditional dating kind of girl. What I mean by that is that men didn’t really approach me all that often. My friends always had boyfriends and I had gotten used to being 3rd and 5th wheel. I often asked myself why I was the only one of my friends that never had a boyfriend. I wasn’t complaining, but it was something that I thought about.
I was and still am quite the independent woman and never felt the need have someone by my side all the time. I built my own ikea furniture, killed spiders yada yada yada. Maybe it’s because I never had “it”… “that feeling” and I didn’t know what all the fuss was about! Anyways, all to say that I had been single most of my life and I was ok with it. The only time I really felt like I wanted to be in a relationship was when I got invited to formal events where you got a +1. Well I never really got to use my +1s. Cue pity party!
How we met.
Back to the beginning. I was 26, it was a Sunday and I was watching a really sappy movie on TV, all while revamping my online dating website on POF (Plenty of Fish). I had been tired of meeting the wrong kind of guy… just like every other single woman out there. I thought to myself, how can I attract a guy that’s like me. POF was full of bad apples and creepy dudes but I knew that if I was on there, someone like me must be there, looking for the same thing.
In came Scott.
He described himself as a simple man, pretty straight forward. He mentioned he had a 2-year-old son that he was obsessed with and that he wasn’t looking for a mother for him, since he already had a good one. That’s what got me. It was so adorable and honest. I had never considered dating someone with kids. What I mean by that is that I wasn’t for it, but I wasn’t against it. I had never thought about the idea of dating someone with a child. I wasn’t against it, but the idea just never crossed my mind. But it didn’t bother me so I just treated the situation like I was talking to any other single guy out there. He was the one that made the first move and message me. He made a reference to something I had written in my profile. (I’ll be sharing another blog post about tips and tricks on how I dated online and why it worked for me.) His message to me was long… but short enough not to bore me and it piqued my interest enough for me to write him back. Gosh I wish I would have saved our conversations. I love those early messages you exchange when first making a connection. It’s so innocent and exciting!
We met on Superbowl Sunday, which says a lot considering that Scott is a huge football fan. That quick drink lasted 3 hours and that was it. We’ve seen each other every day to every other day since then. Fast forward 3.5 years later and we’ve had 2 kids together and we’ve tied the knot.
Boom online dating success!
So online dating worked for us and I’m going to share kind of the ins and out of online dating. I will be writing more blog posts in the next couple of weeks that focus on Online Dating. I find it’s incredibly helpful to hear about other success stories. I might even get some of my girlfriends to share some of their stories. Trust me, you want to hear those.
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